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As parents, we spend a lot of time to help our children succeed – teach them the words, set the rules and promote good behavior.
But silently there is a skill that will succeed in life or with self-link or ability adapt to their emotionsNeed and interior sound. When children feel safe when they are, they make this value every attitudeCall and decision. When they do not do their respect for themselves from the inside.
I spent years Learning more than 200 parent-child relationshipsAnd I am my mother. Things No. 1, other parents say that if they teach only one skill in life, there must be self-contacts.
Self-contact is a skill that can be held negotiating
Self-link loss has a small, good meaning that sends the wrong message. A child is crying after running a toy. The parent says, “You are good. It’s not a big deal.” The child is what they heard: “I don’t matter my feelings.”
Or they can say that they are afraid of sleeping. The parent responds, “There is nothing to be afraid.” The child can feel like this: “I should not feel this way, so I should not trust my feelings.”
Like these delicate messages, repetitive over time, flush the child’s ability to connect with themselves. Then they become more disturbing, jet, invalid or they will be completely attached. Even worse, he can adulthood.
But here’s a self-link adds value to their lives:
- Builds emotional firmness: Children who connect with their feelings can walk large emotions without feeling stressful, rejection and feeling.
- Supports healthy boundaries: Self-related children rely on instincts. More likely to talk or manipulate or manipulate peers when you feel something.
- Gives the original confidence: Confidence does not come from praise or achievements. It makes you feel safe when you get to know who you are and be sure to be human.
- Protects mental health: A strong man helps children oppose the desire to confirm in harmful places. It can be a strong buffer with anxiety and self-doubt.
How to nurture self-link
Good news? You do not have to overhauled you parenting style To help you get connected to your children. Small turns make a big difference.
1. Confirm their feelings
Resist the desire to say “you are good”. Instead try, “It was sad, did it not?”
The assessment does not mean an agreement. This means to show that your child is the real and safe world of your emotional world. This helps to develop confidence in their feelings, which is the main part of itself.
2. Greet their full
Give gaps for dirty emotions, difficult questions and signs. When children are seen and accepted, they learn, even if they are angry or feared, “All of you are pleasant.”
This feeling of affiliation, strengthens itself and emotional confidence from adulthood.
3. Step back, do not micromanagaj
Microfinization chips during self-confidence. Choose your outfits and decide how to manage your sister dynamics or how to spend the afternoon, give the choices of your child’s age.
Helps you to get rid of practice and safety space, build internal sounds & sustainability
4. Model self-link
Say things: “I feel a lot. I need to breathe deep.”
When you call and adjust your own emotions, your child learns that it is not something for fear or supposing.
5. Use the language that does not embarrass the consciousness
Replacement “Why did you do that?” For: “What did you feel when this happened?”
Invite an interesting, compassionate tone introspect. With time, your words are internal dialogue.
6. Look under the behavior
A child is easy to lash, scream or refuse. But the behavior is often a message: are they leaving? Powerless? Hearing?
Meeting the back of the behavior, helps you understand that your child is not only “bad” that they are human.
7. They celebrate who they are, what they do
Yes, achievements. But also often let the invisible qualifications, and call: “You are not very thoughtful with your friends” or “I love how interested I’m interested.”
These reminders strengthen their mind because they are, they do not know they are only achieved.
Reem Rauuda The creator of conscious parents and two transformative magazines is a leading voice – FoundationsStep-by-step healing guide and a step-by-step healing guide that converts parents to those emotionally safe TiedLiability magazine that gives life a lifetime in a few minutes and strengthens a parent-child garden. The experience of children in emotional safety of children and emotionally recognized to redefine what it means to grow emotionally healthy children. Follow him Instagram.
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